Love is In the Air at deme!

Each month we’re here to give our fabulous followers the latest news and insider tips from deme’s team of experts. It’s February and love is in the air. Break up with your bad habits, and fall back in love with your health and beauty regimen. From skin care and make-up to dentistry and nutrition, our cosmetic and medical professionals have you covered!

With every wish for your continued health and fabulousness,

Your devoted team at deme.


dr.jamesIntroducing Amy James, DMD, MS, PA

Orthodontist Dr. Amy James will be joining the deme team in March. Dr. James is a board-certified Diplomate of the American Board of Orthodontics and has been running her own practice in South Jersey where she utilizes the latest technological advances in the industry. Her top priority is providing patients with friendly, comfortable care that is specialized to each individual’s needs, and she prides herself on providing the highest quality orthodontic care to each patient.

Dr. James is a faculty member at Temple University Kornberg School of Dentistry in the Graduate Department of Orthodontics. She is a member of the American Association of Orthodontists, Mid-Atlantic Society of Orthodontists, New Jersey Association of Orthodontists, American Dental Association, New Jersey Dental Association, Southern Dental Society of New Jersey, Cooper Hospital Regional Craniofacial and Cleft Palate Team, and the Charles H. Tweed International Foundation for Orthodontic Research.  She is also one of several international instructors for the Tweed Foundation.

After graduating cum laude from Dickinson College, Dr. James received her Doctorate in Dental Medicine from the University of Pennsylvania and her Orthodontic Certificate of Specialty and Master of Science in Oral Biology from Temple University. She completed a one-year hospital-based general practice residency in San Francisco, a two-year commitment as a general dentist, and a two-year orthodontic residency before opening her practice in both Haddonfield and the Long Beach Island area in New Jersey.

Dr. James is an active member of Rotary International and travels with Rotaplast to third-world countries working with a team of specialists to perform cleft lip and palate surgeries and reconstructions. She has traveled to China as an Orthodontic delegate with People to People and has lectured to the General Dental residents at UMDNJ.

Skin Care

iStock_000015171694XSmallBaby, it’s cold outside, and your skin is probably taking the brunt of the damage. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, deme’s clinical aestheticians shared their advice on how to show your skin some love during these cold, harsh times.

Between the icy winds and wet snow outside, and the drying heat inside, it’s easy for skin to become dry, flaky, and even cracked during the winter months. The key to dealing with dry skin is exfoliation. Often when skin is dry, patients tend to load up on heavy creams to compensate for the dryness that they are experiencing. What people fail to realize with dry skin is that dry or even dead skin cells buildup on the surface and need to be removed. Layering on heavy creams and lotions is like trying to rehydrate the dry or dead skin cells, which is not going to solve the problem. Instead, increased exfoliation is an effective way to remove the dry skin cells, and then moisturize the new skin cells. This process will result in softer, moisture-balanced skin. In addition to this, the active ingredients in your moisturizers and serums will now be able to work better for your skin on a deeper level. Often times, cleansing brushes like the Clarisonic are the perfect option for this light exfoliation. These brushes will also tackle the skin all over your body, not just your face, with specific targeted brush heads, and work to remove dirt and bacteria from pores. Be sure to clean your brush head after each use with warm soapy water and replace every three months for best results.

If you are experiencing all around dull, dry, or flaky skin this winter, remember to exfoliate and follow up with deme’s Antioxidant Hydrating Body Lotion and deme’s Glycolic 15% Body Lotion. For more information on hydrating skin care regimens, check out our post from October’s Little Black Book


Drink-this-DailyIf you’re having trouble keeping that New Year’s resolution now that January is over, your body could be craving a healthy balance. Try this light, citrus drink from Young and Raw for alkaline balance, reduced inflammation, and clearer skin.


1-2 cups water (room temp or hot water are both fine based on preference)
1 lemon, juiced and sliced
1 tsp. apple cider vinegar
1 tsp. aloe vera
1 tsp. honey is optional for sweetener and antibacterial properties
optional – toss in some herbs like mint or basil for digestion or inflammation support

What Makes this Drink So Special?

1. Lemon
Lemons have astringent qualities and are alkalizing, even though before you consume them they’re acidic. Consuming lemons and other Vitamin C rich foods assist with iron absorption which means more sustainable energy, because if your iron stores are low, you’re sure to feel fatigued. Lemons can also stimulate the liver, promoting detox and a clearer complexion. Unless you suffer from heartburn or another GI issue, drinking lemon water daily can be extremely rewarding and give you a bit of a glow!

2. Apple Cider Vinegar
Apple cider vinegar is an age old remedy for literally dozens of health issues. Just check out this post 35 Awesome Ways to Use Apple Cider Vinegar for more ideas. “ACV” is often used to combat acid reflux caused by an underproduction of stomach acid, but that’s not all.

It’s commonly consumed because it’s rich in enzymes and helps to balance the bacteria in the gut, which of course leads to healthier, more beautiful looking skin. Some people consume apple cider vinegar in their morning drinks daily and have the most gorgeous skin ever. Diabetics may turn to this potent elixir to help lower their blood sugar and augment their insulin response.

3. Aloe Vera
Most of us know aloe vera for its healing properties when applied to the skin, usually to treat a cut or a burn. However, aloe vera can also be consumed internally and while its flavor alone isn’t the main attraction, it’s palatable and easily disguised among other flavors. Aloe vera is often used to treat gut issues, and some research has been done to discover whether or not aloe vera can be used to treat concerns like colitis and diabetes. This is another plant that does wonders for the look and feel of the skin and many report that taking aloe vera regularly results in clearer, brighter looking skin.

4. Honey
Honey has been a sacred food for as far back as we can go. It’s been used as food and medicine for thousands of years, and today is still touted for its antibacterial, anti fungal properties – and is the most common reference and rebuttal to Michael Pollan’s Quote “Don’t Eat Anything that Doesn’t Rot”. Why? Because honey doesn’t rot, and almost everyone will agree that it’s a naturally perfect medicine. While honey is high in sugar and should be consumed very mindfully, medicinally it’s really quite good for fighting infection and can even be applied to the skin to help treat acne and scarring.

5. Mint & Basil
Fresh wild and culinary herbs are a wonderful addition to any diet! Mint is a well-known remedy for digestive issues and easing nausea, though it doesn’t hurt knowing mint also contains minerals and anti-inflammatory compounds as well. Basil is also anti-inflammatory and flavorful added to food and beverages with a healthy twist.

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Look Effortlessly Sexy for Valentine’s Day

526364_618774974819453_1956717465_nWhen it comes to Valentine’s Day make-up, keep it either soft and romantic or bold and sexy. To get a sexy, smoldering look, start with a smoky eye. When choosing the right color, it’s best to go with a dark color like charcoal grey, chocolate brown, or even a deep plum. Don’t be afraid to add some shimmer to your eyelids or your inner corner for a pop. To properly enhance your eyes use lash thickening mascara and winged eyeliner. Do not fear the liner ladies! You can use little tricks such as tape or the three dot method. If you are not familiar with these techniques hit the internet and check out the many eyeliner tutorials that are now at your disposal; you would be amazed at how easy this can be. Add false lashes for intense drama.

Apply basic blush on your cheeks to complete this impressive look. A bold lip color is too much when paired with a smoky eye so it is best to compliment this look with a subtle nude lip color and a coat of clear gloss. If you’re all about the red lip for Valentine’s Day, skip the smoky eye and stick to just liner and lashes and let your lips be the focal point.

For a low key night, keep your makeup simple. Focus on making your skin look its best! Aim for natural, feminine beauty by applying a light-reflecting sheer foundation, and use concealer only where you need it most. If you have a particularly oily t-zone, dust with translucent powder to set. Add some extra warmth to skin, finish with a light dusting of bronzer along the edges of your face and gently across the bridge of the nose where the sunlight would naturally fall. Brush on a light neutral eyeshadow and if you want to take it up one more notch, using a fine eyeliner brush, apply a thin line of shimmery mocha shadow just under the roots of the lower lashes and blend to touch in the inner corners to open up your eyes. Makeup for a night in should be soft and subtle so add pink or peach gloss to your lips and a few swipes of rosy or sheer pink blush. Don’t forget to pump up the lash volume by curling your eyelashes and following up with your favorite volumizing mascara.


Families and friends of those who are struggling with substance use or compulsive behaviors are often faced with on-going, painful problems. They may worry about their loved one’s well-being, fear the consequences for themselves as well as their loved one, and feel frustrated and angry at being mistreated (deceived, abandoned, treated harshly, etc). There may be legal, health, financial, work, child-care, and other problems.

Join us for a workshop to review the latest evidence based practices in the treatment of Addictive Disorders and how family members can help their loved ones suffering from problems related to substance use.

Helping Your Loved One Change Their Substance Use: A Workshop for Families

Date: Sunday March 22, 2015
Time: 1-4 p.m.
Location: The National Liberty Museum
321 Chestnut St, Philadelphia, PA 19106
Cost: Free
RSVP by March 1st by sending an email to
Panel and Discussion led by
Michael Ascher, MD and Susan Schack, PhD

Read the recent Huffington Post article below coauthored by Dr. Michael Ascher regarding this matter.

10 Effective Tips to Help Your Loved One Seek Treatment for a Substance Use Problem

When an individual is in the throes of struggling with substance problems, chaos becomes a regular part of life for both the individual (also known clinically as the identified patient, or “IP”), and his or her family. As mental health clinicians, we spend a great deal of time working with desperate family members in their journey to help the IP to enter treatment. The families we work with experience a confluence of emotions including sadness, guilt, hopelessness, anger, frustration, and fear. When we first meet with these families it is clear that they have exhausted many of their coping mechanisms and resources to influence the IP in the direction of change. At this point, pleading, threatening, arguing, confronting and avoiding have all been tried with limited success. Unfortunately, and in addition, family members can be struggling with their own mental health issues including anxiety, depression, substance use issues, and trauma in part due to and/or exacerbated by the stress.

Feeling alone, stigmatized, and devastated, families are left with many questions. “How did my loved one get to be like this?” “What could I have done differently?” “Why does he/she continue to hurt themselves and us so recklessly?” “Am I an enabler? “Should I just cut the person off or administer tough love?” “What is their rock bottom?” While many families are convinced that the IP “doesn’t want to change,” we regularly point out that although a part of them might desire change, they may not feel they have the skills to do so currently.

In spite of such tragedy, we feel incredibly lucky and privileged as clinicians to work with these inspiring and resilient families because individuals and families can and do change! While good outcomes are attainable over time, it is imperative for families and the IP to recognize that the management of substance use disorders is a process like any other chronic medical condition (e.g., diabetes, hypertension and obesity).

Regrettably, there is an abundance of misinformation available to the general public regarding the treatment of substance use disorders. Reality television shows often portray dramatic and provocative “interventions” that claim to result in radical change. Unfortunately, these types of approaches rarely work and can serve to alienate and shame the individual, often leaving him or her with lower self-esteem, self-hatred and hopelessness. To make matters even more complicated, the person being confronted is often under the influence of a substance leaving them very fragile, impaired, disinhibited, defensive, and demonstrating poor judgment with an inability to comprehend the nature of the intervention.

In this post, we provide 10 tips that may increase the likelihood of getting your loved one to engage in treatment (or change of any sort!) while keeping you as healthy as possible.

1. Your own self-care is essential.

2. Establish your own personal limits.

3. Avoid terms that carry stigma such as “addict,” “enabler” and “co-dependent.”

4. Learn to communicate in a nonjudgmental way. Explain to the IP that this struggle is different for everyone, and that there are any number of paths to change that could be helpful.

5. Recognize strengths of the IP. Validate their experience. Acknowledge that their substance use behaviors do not define who they are as a person.

6. Make a commitment to addressing your own issues (seeking your own treatment) with the IP. Own your piece of the struggle.

7. Empathize with the dilemma of ambivalence that the IP faces.

8. Respond effectively to this ambivalence and subsequent reluctance to change from the IP. Understand their point of view. Stay away from threats. Invitation works better.]]}9. Seek outside consultation from a clinician you trust. Learning how to communicate with the IP in the most optimal way takes time. Learn to control the way you deliver a message.

10. Suggest the first visit to a mental health provider be simply “an initial consult to find out what treatment options exist.” The focus of the consult could be managing stress and anxiety and not necessarily addiction per se.
Dr. Michael Ascher serves as a clinical associate in psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia and is in private practice. He is coeditor of “The Behavioral Addictions” (Washington: American Psychiatric Publishing, 2015).